Merry Childermas?

The following is the text of a sermon preached on December 28, 2025 at Bering Church.


Last week I had a conversation with Diane and Calvin about preaching from the lectionary. During that conversation, Diane said something important that stuck with me: “Preaching from the lectionary makes you read the parts of scripture that are hard…the parts you don’t really want to deal with.” 

Advent, the season of waiting for the Light, ended on Christmas Eve as we retold the nativity story. We woke up the next morning to the wonderful chaos of the Christmas celebration… and we are still celebrating Christmas. Today is the 3rd day of Christmastide (otherwise known as the 12 days of Christmas), the season that lets us dive deeply into the miracle of Christ’s birth, the gift of God putting on skin to come live with us and within us.

The 3rd day of Christmas is also Childermas in the calendar of the church, the “children’s mass”. We don’t celebrate feast days the way our siblings in the Catholic church do, but they are reflected in our lectionary… and so today, our gospel lesson is about the Slaughter of the Innocents.

The Massacre of the Innocents, Angelo Visconti

It seems a little on the nose that the Sunday I was asked to preach the text is about Herod ordering the murder of every boy in Jerusalem under 2 years of age.

Because, as a pediatric surgeon, I have personally witnessed the slaughter of children.

I have heard the anguished cries of their parents. 

I know exactly what Rachel’s weeping sounded like…

You don’t have to be a pediatric surgeon working in an urban hospital to witness the slaughter of children today.

The news is filled with images and stories of children dying from bombings in Gaza, Ukraine, Syria, and so many other places…Children dying from starvation and disease because food and medicine are being deliberately withheld…Children dying from gunshot wounds on beaches and in our cities. 

Omran, Angels Are Here”, by Judith Mehr

It’s overwhelming. 

It’s understandable that we just want to look away…to protect our tender hearts from this horror, from this darkness. 

What do you do with a Christmas text about something this horrible? 
And why is this part of the Christmas story? 

Today’s text reminds us that in the midst of Christmas lights, presents, and celebrations… there was, is, and will always be darkness in the world. But it doesn’t stop there. I think it also provides some guidance on what to do…how we are to bring light into the darkness.

Lament

Jesus wept. 

It’s not only the shortest verse in the Bible, it’s a directive for those of us who have chosen to follow Jesus. Like Rachel, like the mothers in Bethlehem, in the face of unthinkable tragedy, it’s not only ok that we mourn, it is important that we lament, that we embody our sorrow… that we weep, tear our clothes, cover ourselves with ashes. 

Like Rachel and the mothers in Bethlehem, we need to let our hearts be broken by that which breaks the heart of God. 

Be angry

Profound sorrow is often accompanied by anger, even if we try to (or have been taught to) suppress it.  Rebecca Solnit, who is one of my favorite philosophers and activists, quotes Rev. Dr. Renita J Weems who teaches that “rage is a form of prayer”.  It’s a form of prayer because rage is not primarily about the anger, it’s about the love and care that underlies that anger. 

So don’t worry if you feel rage with your sorrow… it’s holy.

Watch for the way opening

Today’s scripture lessons start by teaching us that in the face of unbearable sorrow we are to lament, weep, and even shake our fists at God in anger. But then, we need to let go, we need to “put our trust in YHWH’s unfailing love.” (from another of today’s readings, Isaiah 63:7-9)

When I say “let go”, let me be clear. I’m not talking about letting go of the grief – I’m talking about transforming it in a way that allows us to “watch for the way opening” as the Quakers say. 

The mothers in our story never stopped grieving. Each of them had waves of grief that were unrelenting, waves of grief that tumbled them in the surf of sorrow and then threw them to the ground. But as time went on they began to realize, like everyone who has experienced this kind of intense grief, that although the waves never stop, they begin to decrease in intensity and frequency. In the midst of grief there are moments where we can finally stand up without being knocked down… and in those moments sorrow can be transformed.

The Dream of St. Joseph by Anton Raphael Mengs

Joseph must have felt sorrow, too… along with tremendous anger. His fiancee became pregnant, but not by him. He had to obey a ruthless tyrant and take Mary to Jerusalem so Herod could know how many people to tax. And then, when they got there, it was so crowded there was no place to stay… 

And, yet… 

Joseph got up. 

Not once, not twice, but three times. 

He had three different dreams and each time the same thing happened…  

He had a dream not to divorce Mary… and “Joseph got up and did as the angel of God directed.”

He had a dream to escape with Mary and Jesus to Egypt… and “Joseph got up, awakened Jesus and Mary, and they left that night for Egypt.”

He had a dream to return to Israel with Jesus after the death of Herod… and “Joseph got up, awakened Jesus and Mary, and they returned to the land of Israel.”

Flight into Egypt by Ivanka Demchuk

The word in Greek that is translated as “dream” in Matthew is specific for a dream that is a clear message sent by God. This word is used only 21 times in the Bible, and only 6 times in the New Testament… all in the Gospel according to Matthew.  

Matthew makes it clear – God spoke to Joseph.

And Joseph listened, got up, and obeyed. 

“God is still speaking” is the slogan and the identity of the UCC

We believe that God is still speaking to us in dreams, events, conversations, natural beauty, art, poetry, imagination… Sometimes it’s with a loud voice…urgent messages like the ones Joseph heard, but more often it’s a whisper, words that enter our awareness like a sacred secret.  As John C. Dorheur,  pastor and former President of the UCC explains “Sacred moments and new truth and inspired wisdom can come to us along many pathways. Some moments of insight are approached through disciplines we cultivate for that very purpose. Other epiphanies come utterly by surprise, the product less of our cultivation than of some unexpected inspiration that the universe conspires to create.

So I return to the questions I started with… 

What do you do with a Christmas text about something this horrible? 
And why is this part of the Christmas story? 

Today’s gospel reading reminds us that darkness has always been and will always be present in the world, that there are times that it will drop us to our knees in grief or fear. But it also gives us a glimpse about how to move through that darkness, to remember that Light was born into the world, a Light that shines in the darkness, a Light that darkness cannot overcome. (John 1:5).

We are to bear witness. 

When faced with unbearable tragedy, when we find ourselves in the throes of darkness, we are to bear witness, to not look away. As painful as it is, we are to let our hearts be broken by that which breaks the heart of God.

Ring the bells that still can ring,
forget your perfect offering,
there is a crack, a crack in everything
that’s how the light gets in.

Leonard CoheN

We are to lament (and not be surprised if we are angry). 

We are to embody our sorrow and feel rage at the injustice… honest emotions, felt deeply. 

We are to trust. 

Having faced the darkness, felt deep sorrow and anger, we then need to let go. We can’t let sorrow and anger consume us. Through faith we watch for moments that let us begin to transform our sorrow and our anger, looking for the Light that is able to shine through our brokenness …and then we are to take that Light into the world to do what Love would have us do.

May we be open to the many ways that God is still speaking – in our dreams, in the actions and words of angels among us, in quiet whispers and gentle touch, in birdsong and sunrise.

In the dark, in times of sorrow, fear, and anger may we watch for the way opening.

And then, like Joseph, may we listen, get up, and obey. 

Amen

Sermons are meant to be heard, more than read. If you want to listen, you can find this sermon here (The sermon starts at 18:43). 

On Call During the Holidays

Caring for those who are ill or injured is a 24 hours a day job, 365 days a year… including the holidays. 

Being on call during the holidays comes with a little sadness, but it’s complicated. If you’ve ever worked in a hospital during the holidays, you know it’s special in a way that’s hard to describe. Somehow everything seems a little gentler. Even though everyone working would like to be home, they also realize it’s even more true for the patients…. especially if they are children. Kids in the hospital at Christmas tug at the heartstrings of everyone except the very few not-yet-transformed Grinches or Scrooges (and even they are not immune). 

But it’s not just doctors and nurses, it’s everyone working during the holidays whose work helps to make others whole… because healing isn’t just about procedures, medications, and diagnosis… it’s about making others whole. In fact, the word literally means “to make whole”.

Old English hælan “cure; save; make whole, sound and well,” from Proto-Germanic *hailjan (source also of Old Saxon helian, Old Norse heila, Old Frisian hela, Dutch helen, German heilen, Gothic ga-hailjan “to heal, cure”), literally “to make whole” (from PIE *kailo- “whole;” see health).

etymonline.com

Police officers, fire fighters, EMTs, paramedics, 911 dispatchers, social workers, counselors, clergy all work to decrease suffering and heal. So do the people who clean, cooking, answer phones, or do anything to make that healing possible.

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So Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa, and Joyous Solstice to all who are working over the next few weeks… and all who support them in this work. All of our winter celebrations have one thing in common… celebrating light coming into a world that struggles with darkness, light that heals.

If you are working during the holidays, thank you for being that light.

p.s. My family makes this cranberry bread every year for Christmas. It’s delicious, makes your house smell incredibly wonderful, and (BTW) is a fabulous way to say “Thank you!” to a healer in your life who is working during the holidays. 

Mix dry ingredients together in a bowl:

  • 2 cups  flour
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 1 1/2 tsp baking powder
  • 1/2 tsp baking soda

Combine in a Pyrex measuring cup:

  • 2 Tbsp melted butter
  • Juice and grated rind of one large orange

Fill with boiling water to make 3/4 cup then add to dry ingredients. Then add the following to the batter

  • 1 egg
  • 1 cup nuts (chopped walnuts)
  • 1 cup raw cranberries (cut in half)

Bake in loaf pan (325° for metal pan, 300° for glass pan) for 1 hour

  • Test with toothpick

p.p.s. If you are particularly motivated to bake and give some away to neighbors and friends multiplying by 9 is the key to easy measurement:

Mix dry ingredients together in a bowl:

1 5 lb bag  flour

1 4 lb bag sugar

1 1/2 tblsp salt

4 1/2 tblsp baking powder

1 1/2 tblsp baking soda

Combine in a Pyrex measuring cup:

1 1/8 cup melted butter  (2.25 sticks)

Juice and grated rind of nine large oranges

Fill with boiling water to make 6 3/4 cup then add to dry ingredients

Add 9 eggs

9 cup nuts (chopped walnuts) = 3 lbs

9 cup raw cranberries (cut in half) = 3 12 oz bags

Bake in loaf pans (325° for metal pan, 300° for glass pan) for 1 hour

Test with toothpick

This Year’s @drmlb’s Top 10 Gifts for Medical Students, Residents and Busy Docs.

This time of year, family and friends of docs and/or docs in training are looking for the last minute holiday gifts (if you are trying to have them shipped) or planning the trip to the store(s) for gifts.

clock-and-stethoscope

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The one thing any busy person doesn’t have enough of is time.  If you think about it in that context, you can find presents to support interests, fitness, studying (or just having fun) in a thoughtful way.

1. Someone to help clean their home.  It is the most amazing present to come one once a week (or even once a month) to a house that has been cleaned by someone else.  If there are family members who are willing (and it’s appropriate) you can put together a gift of cleaning supplies with a certificate for monthly housecleaning.  If not, word of mouth to find the best person is usually the best way, and will often help you find someone who also does laundry and ironing.  (a true gift!).   There are professional services in every city as well that can be found with an easy internet search.
2. Something to help integrate fitness into their every day activities.  If they don’t have a good bike to commute to school or the hospital (and this is something they would like) this is a great present.  Don’t forget the helmet, reflective vest and very bright lights as part of the package!
3. A fast computer.  If they have the same computer they had in college and you are able to do this for them, the time they will save in uploads will be very appreciated!
4. A smart phone or mini iPad (especially the new iPad air).  Like the computer, if the phone they have is more than 3-4 years old, the upgrade will be much appreciated.  The mini iPad (instead of the regular size) fits in a white coat pocket, which is why it’s ideal for anyone who wears a white coat.  If they have an iPad, think about some of the more expensive medical apps. (or a certificate for the App store
5. Kitchen appliances to save time (and promote healthy eating).  My favorites on this list would include a rice maker (which can also be used to steam meat and vegetables), a pressure cooker a slow cooker or the Krups multi-cooker.  A blender is always a good gift (to make smoothies and soups).  If you are feeling particularly generous, a VitaMix instead of a blender is much more versatile (and makes much better smoothies!).
6. Prepared meals. If you have family who love to cook, you can make a “certificate” for homemade food in freezable portions.  If you can afford it, there are personal chefs who do the same thing.  You can also give them a gift certificate for a grocery store like Whole Foods that has healthy prepared food or companies that deliver healthy meals (In Houston, it’s companies like MyFitFoods – but this varies from city to city).
7. Fitness equipment for home.  For medical students who are spending a lot of time studying think about a FitDesk, FitBike or a treadmill desk.  The standard stationary bikes, treadmills, etc are another option, but they are expensive and you have to really know that they are preferred over going to the gym (see #8).  A less expensive but very effective gift would be a “fitness care package” with resistance bands, FitDeck cards, a gift certificate for running shoes, and other small less expensive gifts.

8. A membership in a local gym. You can also consider a certificate for group classes in spinning, yoga, or whatever they enjoy.
9. Time with family and friends.  Think about a “certificate” for time together – maybe with restaurant gift cards or movie gift cards attached.  A “certificate” for a monthly home cooked meal?  If you aren’t in the same town, think about how to make it easy for them to spend time with their friends.  If you know their favorite restaurant or hangout, see if you can get a gift certificate.  If not, go for tickets to the local theater, one of the movie chains (find out which one is closest to where they live), or their favorite restaurant chain. If they have children, babysitting is a wonderful gift.
10. Whatever you can think of that makes gives them more time and/or will support them during times of stressful and busy work!

 

 HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL!!!PEACE_ON_EARTH

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Last year’s suggestions on wellnessrounds.org